Sunday, March 29, 2009

Can I Ask Why?

Sometimes I'm honestly amazed at the stupidity of people.

Seriously.

Remember my posts about X Couple?

Let me give you a quick update on that crazy situation. They are now in the process of getting a divorce and Mrs. X has already moved on to a new man. You do remember correctly they have a small child, who is under the age of one. I'm sure this isn't making a lasting impression on him at all.

Another wife I used sort of know at Fort Polk has a blog that I occasionally read. I thought for a long time she was a smart woman, I know she has a masters and I'm 90% sure she has a doctorate in some sort of social work. I've known for awhile that she and her husband have been trying to have a child for sometime without success. From what she's told me it's been a real struggle and they are still looking at various methods. I felt for them and her until recently when catching up on her blog and she had posted entry upon entry showing pictures of her drinking heavily and smoking. I'm not kidding that one blog mentions her and a friend killing four huge bottles of wine.

Um...last time I checked it wasn't really recommended for anyone who was trying to have children to engage in those behaviors, much less if you are having trouble conceiving.

I told Sean I was considering leaving an anonymous comment on her blog saying as much.

I mean really? Does anyone else not find that detrimental to the whole process?

Sorry for the post, I think the rain is making me a bit crabby.

Sunshine and rainbows will be back tomorrow!

16 comments:

Jon and Steph said...

I completely agree! If you want to do it the right way and give your fetus any chance of being a healthy baby.... why would you ever engage in such behavior?

jlc said...

Wow....

The Wife said...

All I can say about that is "Some peoples kids."

J.L.S. said...

I don't think I really feel too bad about her not being able to get pregnant after hearing that. It is obviously a really good thing she hasn't been able to conceive yet! Jeez!

Angie said...

People really blow me away sometimes. I don't think I'll ever understand how they think.
Do you ever watch "My big redneck wedding"?
That show scares the hell out of me to think that there are actual people out there like that.

Sarah said...

Stupid people aren't tolerated in my family. Sometimes after a particularly stressful stupid-people day, I can call my mom and just say "I hate people" and she knows exactly what I'm feeling. (Not, that I really hate people...)

It's really sad, but stupidity is rampant.

lolaberly said...

Gotta love awesome and responsible parents...

Sigh.

Lindsay said...

You should have to have a license to have children. And vote. And breathe....

Wow. I really sound like I hate people, don't I? I really don't, but sometimes I do.

Damn I'm complicated.

Kelly said...

I know a woman who does almost the same thing. It doesn't make any sense to be drinking heavily if you are trying. It doesn't make any sense at all.

Hannah Noel said...

Good-NESS!!

Erin said...

Stupid people make me crabby, too! I get so annoyed by people who don't do anything to help themselves like those peope who are trying to have a baby.

Anonymous said...

I think it's a tad bit judgmental..

The Rest is Still Unwritten said...

For one, I agree with lindsey, you should have to take a test or something before having kids & I'll add before getting married! Two, I feel sorry for anyone who wants to be a parent and can't have kids. And I know I won't stop drinking when I have I kids, but I COMPLETEY understand you point. That's a little excessive, especially if they want to adopt.

Oh and I'm so NOT surprised about Couple X. I remember those posts!

Kebi Cedawna said...

Hmm, definitely not very wise decisions.

Lindsey said...

I agree with you 100%!!

TTC Little Miracle said...

I just shook my head when I read this entry. It's perfectly okay for an infertile couple to go out and have fun for once if they want to. Just because someone has a drink or a smoke doesn't mean that they deserve their infertility. Nor does it mean that it's a "good thing" they haven't been able to conceive. Anyone who believes that is heartless.

My husband and I only drink on occasion (about 3 or 4 times A YEAR). We've been trying for 1 1/2 and have lost two babies. Yet because I drink that makes it so I don't deserve to be a mother? Umm, get off your high horse. What gives you and everyone else the right to judge others? Infertility is bad enough without having people like you (and other commenters) make it worse. I'm sure I could find plenty of reasons why you and everyone else here "deserves" to not be a mother but that would just be ridiculous and incredibly mean.