Friday, May 2, 2008

Being Tactful I didn't make it to the gym today like I promised myself I would. In truth, I just feel awful. Obviously not bad enough to skip blogging, but I consider blogging to be right up there with eating and sleeping.

I just have no energy! My throat hurts, my sinuses hurt, still having awful cramps, it's enough to make a girl just lay on the couch and watch TV. Which is exactly what I did. Sean was kind enough to fix dinner for me tonight and pretty much get me whatever I wanted, so I spent most of today trying to will myself into feeling better.

A friend of mine from back home called me this afternoon and we chatted for a few minutes. I consider this lady to be a good friend, EXCEPT she has one major fault in my eyes. She has no tact whatsoever. Whatever she is thinking she says, which can sometimes be rude or hurtful. In her mind she's being a good friend by telling you the brutal truth, but I just don't agree with that.

Anyway, she asked me what I was doing and I told her, "laying on the couch, watching TV." Her response? "Gee...your life is so rough."

She's said as much to me before and even admonished me when I told her I had gone to the salon or adopted our dog, because in her words, " you don't even have a job, so why are you spending money?" I can tell that she thinks my life is easy, that I do nothing but lounge around all day and am living the easy life. It's frustrating to me that she thinks that.

A. I have always worked since I have been able to and before I met Sean I was working three jobs.I am STILL looking for a job here after 4 months of looking. I have yet to secure any kind of work. Off-post, on-post, government job, even something like a secretary. To say that's frustrating to a college graduate is putting it mildly. I do not enjoy not having even a part-time job.

B. I do more than just sit around all day. I usually take Sean to work, pick him up for lunch, take him back to work and then pick him up after work. I do errands for him and I during the day which could include almost anything. I keep my house in order, I buy groceries, put gas in the car, wash the car, I do laundry, I cook at least 2 meals a day and sometimes 3, I look for jobs during the day and yes I do go workout. I'm sorry that in her eyes that isn't enough or even constitutes as having an easy life, but I have to disagree.

It just frustrates me to no end when people think I do nothing all day but watch TV and play on the Internet. Not true!

I've already gotten slack from a few people when they asked if I would be working when we were in Italy. I told them I doubted it. For one, since I will be in Europe, I plan on seeing as much of it as possible. Second of all, during that time I plan on getting my Masters. I hardly think that's wasting my time, just because I don't have a job.

I just wish some people would be more tactful.


Caitlin said...

Man that sucks about that friend...that always annoys me about people because I'm my own greatest critic and everything they tell me about my life I've probably already said to myself. Sounds to me like she's trying to make whatever she's doing seem more important. I'm sure you're doing what you need to do, and forget everyone else :)

Jenny said...

I am sorry that you are feeling crappy. I know that stinks. Hope you feel better soon!

tootie said...

We just moved, and I'm having the same trouble finding a job in our new town.

Don't let her comments get you down, though. Our worth is not in what we do (or what job we have) but in who we are!

Hope you feel better soon!