Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Take This Job and Shove It *Update*

I'm this close to actually saying this right now.

You've heard my issues with the guy that is filling in as the director right now. Just when I thought I couldn't possibly not like him any more and then he and I had a conversation last night.

Basically last night he told me he had evaulated my performance since he had been here. He told me I was a medicore employee and was also unenthusiastic and unmotiviated. It took all I had not to laugh in his face when he told me that. I mean really? I've worked for ten years and I've NEVER had a boss tell me that. In fact, I've had nothing but glowing references since I started working.

He also brought up the fact again that me getting every Friday and Saturday off was not fair. Really? Not fair to whom? I work the other five days of the week, so how exactly is that not fair? He told me he'd like me to start coming in on the weekends and working and I told him no. I said that might make me a selfish employee, but I'm not coming in to work weekends when my husband is deploying within the year. After he deploys, then we'll talk about rotating weekends, but right now? HELL NO! His response? I'm very disappointed in your choice and your attitude.

Yeah? Well screw you buddy. The USO is about soldiers and their families, so you don't understand why a military spouse wants to continue to work the schedule that she was hired to work and you aren't flexible either? Yeah..way to continue the USO mission. Jackass

Evidently the new director is coming September 7th. Unfortunately this guy will be around to train him/her so we are looking at him leaving the first of October. To be honest I'm not sure if I can stomach another month with him.

Right now I'm looking at a couple of different scenarios.

1. Stick it out and see how the new director is. If it's not an improvement and they still aren't flexible then I'll most likely quit working before the year is up.

2. See how they are about letting me off for future things like trips, etc. I want to go home for Christmas for 2 weeks. Anything less is just not economical for the price of a flight. I also plan on taking a week off for the cruise with my parents and then time off for Sean's R&R.

3. Quit around June 1st if they won't work with me on this. Yeah..I know it's a lot of time to ask off for, but I'm more than happy to work extra and even on weekends to make that up.

I know "real" world jobs aren't that flexible and I get that. It just seems ridiculous to me that one boss can be so flexible and great and the other just sucks. There's just no other way to describe it.

I did want to work when I got overseas and that's why I accepted a part-time position. It was a fun job and I enjoyed it. Now I'm really regretting my decision to be honest. Sure the extra money is good, but I'm not sure it's worth me hating to come to work everyday and that's where I'm at right now.

Edited to add: I just got off the phone with my mother in which I sobbed about how much I hate my job. Evidently my words of "I'm not working Fridays and Saturdays until my husband deploys" has fallen upon deaf ears as he pulled me into his office and told me I'm now working every other weekend. The kicker? When he said, "Deployments or not Melissa you need to do your part." I actually would have quit right then and there if it weren't for the fact that I would like to speak to Sean first before I just up and quit. Oh..and you can bet your button I'm going to try to find a new job ASAP.

32 comments:

tootie said...

Agh, I can see why you're so frustrated with him. Hopefully the new person will be much better, and you'll enjoy your job again!

Jessica Lynn said...

Wow. It's a little more than outrageous the way that he's treating you. I hope things get worked out...and fast!

kd said...

What a jerk! I know the USO is a private organization and I KNOW they care about military families...I can't imagine why this guy just assumes you're willing to be his slave. Time to make some exlax coffee if you know what I mean...

The Rest is Still Unwritten said...

Is your boss a tiny little man? It sounds like he has little-man syndrome and is trying to bully you around since he's the boss now!

Good luck love. I'd say quit if you're that unhappy...

Sara said...

I had a boss like that before. He was a former Ranger, my other co workers: seals and snipers. And when I needed 2 days of work to see mark home from war? They were less than happy. Amazing. It's a really tough place to be, but when they finally fired me I was so thrilled to to be done with the job.

loquita said...

Ugh, damn asshat bosses... I can't believe he is stooping so low as to try to blackmail you into working more by telling you that your performance is crap! What the f***???

Go with kd's suggestion for some "special" coffee. ; )

Mary Teresa said...

Real world jobs may not be as flexible as you are asking, but you don't have real world job. You have a military world job. Husband's deploy and you'll gladly work more hours, opportunities to travel pop up and you jump at them, jackass bosses appear and you kick them in the nads and run for it. Ok so maybe that last part is a no go, but he needs to get over himself. Hope you come to a decent arrangement with everything. Good luck.

Full of Heart said...

I think if you were hired on by the previous director with certain guidelines and expectations on the table (aka, not working weekends, being able to take chunks of time off in order to travel/go home/see the hubs) than that is essentially the "contract" under which you agreed to take the job. Therefore if new asshole boss is changing things around on you, it isn't fair, and you shouldn't have to follow through with his requests, OR you have every right to quit.

JG said...

No amount of money is worth hating your job! I hope you can find a compromise.

Via said...

Good luck with all this! I was less enthusiastic and more impulsive when my ex-boss told me I wasn't doing anything. I said "ok, then" and quit haha. More power to you!

Sarah Ann said...

You're not being selfish for working the hours you were hired to work. Hes just being an ass. Don't feel bad and do whatever you think is best. Its just a job after all, I'm sure you can find another place to work on post.

Casey (@ Ever-Changing Life) said...

When I managed a USO center here I quit because of my boss. He was shady and inept at dealing with issues. I did go above him first though, and voiced my complaint. Even though I still choose to leave, many of the issues I brought up have been resolved. Too bad the guy is still around. I think the USO might be a little like DODDs with keeping people around that need to be gone.

Jessica said...

I hate that you're going through this.. it really sucks! I cannot believe that some working at the USO is not more understanding about you wanting to spend all the time with your husband that you can. That's crazy and nothing is worth sacrificing your happiness. You know where you stand with your values.. don't let this jackass stand in your way!

Kell said...

ugh, this infuriates me. who does this guy think he is just strolling in and making changes like this? i would complain to someone above him - honestly. clearly he doesn't understand your situation at all and has absolutely no compassion. it's amazing how jerks like him can get into roles of power :o( sorry, love.. everything will be ok. there are tons of jobs out there that would love to have you, im sure of it.

xoxo hang in

SS said...

He is being a total jack A. Regardless of reasons or circumstances, you agreed to a specific schedule when you took the job and that is what they hired you for. period. In any job, if they change those conditions then it is an absolutely legit reason for you to decide to leave, it obviously has nothing to do with your attitued, commitment, work ethic, ability etc etc etc. So there DB.

The Rest is Still Unwritten said...

what an a-hole! I'm sure Sean wouldn't want you to be that miserable. You should really see how it's affecting you, you can't live your life like that.

indiana.girl said...

Oh my god! I got so angry for you when reading this! What an ass!! How can he possibly do that to you when your husband is going to deploy? He is an idiot!! It is so disappointing too, because you'd think he would understand, it being the USO, as you said. Wow. I hope you find a better job soon and this whole thing goes away. What a jerk that man is.

Crazy Shenanigans said...

I personally could not put up with someone like that dude. I would probably just put in my two weeks and be done with it. That's ridiculous.

Kiki said...

Wow, what a jerk! I'm so sorry that he is being like this, I can't even believe it!!!

SinGal said...

OMG I HATE this guy! Does he not know what the USO does?!?!?!? Hello!!! I'm just going to say this, quit. Work these weekends while Sean is gone, and the day he gets back tell him to f-off!

Stacey said...

Ooohhh girl.... I'd tell him to kiss my you know what and quit. What a jerk. I'm so sorry...that is just unacceptable!!!! I'm so sorry...

Just think...when hubby deploys there will be extra bucks...so you don't need that jerk anyway! lol

Windy City Kelley's said...

What an ass! Try to hold out as long as you can, but don't give up time with the huuby. That's why you're over there in the fist place.

ae said...

if you are that unhappy. i think finding a new job is the best thing to do. ugh...why do some people(bosses) have to be such jerks?!

MG said...

Oh my goodness, what a jerk! I'm so sorry to hear that this is happening to you. At first I thought it may be worth it to tough it out until the new director comes, but then I saw your update. Talk to your husband about it and make the decision that is best for you!

Dana said...

Do you keep in touch with Linda? She might know where to complain, if you want.

Abbie said...

I want to fly over to Italy and punch this guy in the face for you! What a jackass! I'm so sorry you're having to deal with his bs...I'm with you though, some jobs just aren't worth it. Talk it through with Sean and make the decision that's best for you guys. Best of luck:)

Young Mom/Wife said...

Man, I am so sorry! I can't believe he is being so awful to you, especially considering this is the schedule you were hired to do AND your husband is deploying. I say, keep the job until you have a replacement job.

Good luck hon!

Stacey said...

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Lisa said...

My first thought is holy crap what an asshole.

I'm sorry lady, that's pretty awful. I don't understand how this guy can have a "career" working for the organization that is all about the troops and be so clueless! Good luck with everything!!

Kebi Cedawna said...

Poor thing! I say start looking for a new job pronto! I agree that the new boss should honor the agreement upon which you were hired.
Do you remember that musical card we bough for Chris Ellis when he quit Sears? I think you need one of those right about now.
Keep your chin up, you always seem to work it all out in the end!

J.L.S. said...

What an a-hole!! I completely agree with Full of Heart. I had a real world job in healthcare that wasn't military related in the least and they were more understanding and flexible with me than your boss is being. With Sean getting ready to deploy, you really need to enjoy your work. You don't need the added stress and emotions that you are getting from working at the USO right now. Take care of yourself and your health first.

The Mrs. said...

I get the whole work ethic thing, and I like to think I have a good one but then again... life is short, tell him to suck it and quit. ok well maybe dont tell him to suck it but you know what i mean.

good luck : )