Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Intimidation

I'm dealing with being intimidated right now. Intimidated of going out and doing things on my own. I'm not scared of going on post, it's more going out onto the economy and shopping/eating/etc that intimidates me.

It's so much easier doing things when you have someone to do them with so you aren't so alone. I have to get used to this, because obviously Sean is going to be gone for a year and I can't just be a hermit for a year.

I've decided I'm going to challenge myself to get out of my comfort zone at least once a week and go out and do something.

In the States I don't think this would have bothered me as much, it's mostly just the language barrier here and a completely different culture that intimidates me.

Do you ladies struggle with this as well? Or am I being a big 26-year-old baby?

22 comments:

kd said...

me me me!! I am a big baby about going out alone as well. The farmer's market was my biggest hurdle. I do like the once a week challenge thing, though!

Sara said...

It's definitely necessary for you to get past it. It wasn't easy for me, but I had so much that I had to do on my own I couldn't avoid it. I guess it helped to go to school. But there were days I was so overwhelmed with having to be out in a really new environment that I had a hard time getting out of bed. I made myself eat out on my own a couple of times, even if it was just coffee or something. You're definitely not being a baby about it. You'll get used to it eventually though. Soon enough it will seem like the norm.

tootie said...

I would be intimidated, too, especially with the language barrier. But I think you have a great plan of getting out at least once a week. After a while, you probably won't even think twice about venturing out!

P.S Maybe you'll meet another wife/gal that wants to go with you.

bss said...

You're not being a baby, it's a scary thing going from being a couple to being by yourself. It sounds like you're already on a good path by making yourself step outside of your comfort zone once a week. You'll do a good job, I'm sure of it :o)

lola said...

I think I'd be intimidated being in a new country. I agree, however, that in spite of that, you must get out and experience things otherwise the year without the hubs is going to be that much harder.

The Rest is Still Unwritten said...

I would be nervous to get out on my own in another country. I'm sure you'll be fine...good luck!

Heather said...

I would def be intimidated too.

I like your blog...I am a new follower.

Susan said...

Don't worry, I was the same way too. The mall is a good place to start ... probably the most American-like. Good luck with it, I know it is hard.

Casey (@ Ever-Changing Life) said...

It does get easier, I promise! J has left me here by myself several times and looking back, I am glad. It made me push myself to get out. Sure, I still get intimidated going into some stores, but I feel very proud of myself when I finish. You can do it!

Mary Teresa said...

You're not a big baby. It's not easy to go out and muddle your way through language barriers without moral support. I started off small, at Aldi or other grocery stores where I felt most comfortable. It definitely takes some courage, but don't give up. You can do it!

JG said...

Hey, just being on your own over there impresses me! I think the above advice is good - just set a goal of a meal or snack out once a week, and work up from there. I'm sure you will flourish!

S.Lovely said...

When I was in Australia I had to overcome that fear too. I just started going out and doing things on my own, realizing that no one else is really paying attention to you. Even if they are they might think "why is that girl alone?" and nothing else. Be confident in yourself that you can show yourself and good time and go out and do the things that you want to do.

d.a.r. said...

I am SUUUCHHH a baby!! You aren't alone!

Sarah Ann said...

Are you kidding me? I have a hard time going out on my own here and its just a different state! Though midwest culture is a lot different from west coast culture its nothing like what you're going through! I think you'll be okay though, you just have to push yourself. And besides, if you become a hermit, what will you blog about? You have to go out so you can share all of your exciting adventures with us!

Lisa said...

Um, yeah. I'm a little worried about how I'm going to be when P is gone. I already don't have many friends here, especially outside of work. I don't do well with the whole going out to eat by myself.

Too bad we don't live closer so we could be deployment buddies. :)

Suzanne said...

I am totally with you! We are so new to the area that I'm intimidated by getting lost:) I also worry about the language barrier too. I really want to learn the language and can't wait to take a class. You can only see so many castles or cool towns by yourself, so let me know when you need a partner in crime!

The Mrs. said...

like you said, in the us it wouldnt bother me but if I were in a foreign country I'd probably be a hermit. Hang in there you'll get used to it with time.

Crazy Shenanigans said...

Sometimes I struggle with it if it's a social setting and my sweets would be there with me. I hate walking into a room and knowing everyone is seeing me alone.

Nikkilooch said...

I was SUPER scared when I first moved here. And I had totally irrational fears too. Like what if my car breaks down and no Italian will take the time to try to understand and help me.

Taking a few Italian classes really helped me get over my fear. Also, when your husband deploys you'll be surprised how many more friends you'll make. Everyone has the same problem at once and friends start coming out of the woodwork. So you won't have to do as much alone as you think you will.

Windy City Kelley's said...

I think the more times you go out on your own the easier it will become for you. Good Luck!

Stacey said...

I would be the same way...I'd try to venture out slowly. Try one place a few times until you get comfortable with that...then try something else. Slow and steady wins the race...I think that applies here. But yeah, I would totally be the same way.

J.L.S. said...

I am a huge baby. If I was on my own turf, it wouldn't bother me as bad (and it didn't bother me too much while Scott was gone). But, if I was in your position or any setting I was unfamiliar with, I'd be having a pity party. I have faith you'll get out and put me to shame, though! You have an incredible country to motivate you! :)