Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Gone....

I am going to make this short and sweet because I am writing this using the internet on our PS3. Sean left today. I didn't cry in front of him,but have been a sobbing mess ever since. Please tell me this gets better.

56 comments:

Jenny said...

Things will get better. Just breathe and take it 1 day at a time. I promise it will get easier.

mewok said...

I'm so sorry. :( We all know how you feel! I know its not so easy to say now but time really will fly! Stay super busy, you're going to do great!

stefanie said...

I am so sorry!! But you'll get through it. Spending time with friends made everything go by a lot faster!

The Mrs. in Stilettos said...

I'm so sorry! It will get better and you both will make it through this stronger and more in love than ever! Stay busy and do things that you enjoy and time will pass by much faster than you thought it ever would!

SarahEileen said...

:( I'm thinking about you.

MG said...

I'm so sorry. It may hard to believe at this point, but it does get better. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Jon and Steph said...

So sorry girl! Keep taking gorgeous photographs and stay busy with friends! Hopefully it will make time zoom by!

Jessica Lynn said...

Hang in there! Things will get easier!

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Expat Girl said...

I am so sorry to hear that, I will be in your position in a few days too. I know from your blog that you are a strong woman so just keep your head up and stay as strong as possible

Amanda and Tim said...

It will get better...but take as much time as you need to get there! You are much braver than me! I would be crying like there were no tomorrow in front of my hubby. Just take deep breaths, sleep as much as you want, and feel sorry for yourself and let no one tell you different.

(I deleted the earlier one because of a type-o. I hate type-os!)

Natalie said...

I'm sorry! You are a strong woman. You WILL get through this!

Kiki said...

For me, the anticipation of the deployment and the goodbye are the worst parts. You'll start to develop a routine of your own and it will get better.

Patience said...

I am so sorry sweetie. I will be thinking of you.

loquita said...

I agree with Kiki -- it's the anticipation and saying goodbye and transitioning to "life during deployment" that sucks. Once you settle in to a routine it's so much easier to cope. I'm really glad you're heading home to see your family soon -- I think that will help. **hugs**

Kayla said...

I'll be where you are in a month and a half. Hang in there, and I'll be right there with you. :-)

Diana said...

Hugs!!

Jessica said...

I am so so sorry love! It HAS to get better and it WILL!! Like everyone said, you will settle into a routine. You'll get an exciting countdown going. This trip home you have coming up will help a bunch! We're all here for you! Take as much time as you need..

tootie said...

I'm sorry :( I have no advice to offer, except for maybe ice cream...and a chick flick.

*hugs*

Tori and Chad said...

All I can say is you and Sean are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care, Army Wife Sister.

d.a.r. said...

I'm praying for you. Just take care of yourself, whatever that entails...chick flicks, ice cream, exercising, shopping, drinking...just be good to yourself.

Magdalena said...

Hugs!

J.L.S. said...

Hey sweet girl! I'm so sorry the goodbye came. It never gets easy, but it does get easier. The weeks/months before the deployment, the first couple of weeks of the deployment, and the last week or so of the deployment are seriously the hardest. You will find your stride. It might be a few days from now, it might be a few weeks. But, you will find one. Once you get to the end, you will wonder exactly what it was you did to make it through. Take a couple of days and just cry it all out, then try to pick yourself up and keep distracted. I'm sure being home with your family soon will give you a good amount to keep you distracted. We are all here for you and most of us have been there before, so don't hesitate to come to us if you need to!

Chelle said...

I'm so sorry. I hate dealing with deployments. But you know the rule of thumb...Keep busy and surround yourself with friends the time will fly for you.

Amy said...

It will get easier and time will go by quickly. You will have a good days and bad days, but the good will outnumber the bad. Just hang in there.

S.Lovely said...

You'll get through this, just try and distract yourself with whatever you can---your favorite tv show, music. Things will get better even though it doesn't feel like that right now.

indiana.girl said...

It will. The first few days are raw and horrible, but it does get better. Thinking of you.

hmb said...

it's okay, newgirl! It wasn't that long ago that I wrote this very same post as you. And now it's 1/3 over. Keep yourself busy....time will pass before you know it!

Emily B said...

This is one of the very worst days of the whole ordeal. I think if you made it through today, you can say you made it through the worst. Do what you need to do to feel better...nothing it off limits :)

SS said...

Warm thoughts coming your way. My prayers for both of you during this deployment.

Erin said...

I am sorry the time came so soon :( You definitely get to be mopey for at least a few days! I really hope the year flies by!

The Kellys said...

So very sorry! You can do it but it will stink the whole time. The day he comes home is the most wonderful day ever. Focus on that! Thinking of you!

Tiffany said...

When your spouse has to leave, whether it's TDY or deployment, it always stinks. Somehow God has programmed us military spouses to be able to handle it. Not that we don't cry or miss our soldier dearly, but we are able to balance that with our ability to find a routine and make that time fly by. Know that you have folks out here in cyberspace who care and who will pray for your separation to be over quickly!

. Becca . said...

You can do this! Fill up your days and stay busy, make things, take lots of pictures, and before you know it, you'll be together again!

Hugs!!!

Jessie said...

**HUGS!!!**

S said...

it doesn't get easier but you'll manage to get through. Deployments always suck. I'm looking back at our deployment which just ended two weeks ago and even though I'm amazed at how fast the time went by in retrospect, I'm glad it's over. Every deployment is different. The first one is the hardest. The following ones are a little easier as you know what to expect and you know how to handle things but they are always hard. Hang in there. You'll see in no time you'll be counting down the days to R&R.

Karren said...

Praying for y'all! *hugs*

Lisa said...

I don't have much to say, since it's only been a week for me, but it does get better. Always feel free to email me if you need to talk. We'll get through this together!

Lindsay said...

BIG HUG from me to you. You will get through this and you will be stronger for it.

The Rest is Still Unwritten said...

I'm so sorry! I wish I could say I know how you feel but I don't. But just know we are here for you and we are all praying for you and for his safe return!

Sgt and Mrs Hub said...

Awww.... so, so sorry. It feels like someone ripped your heart out, doesn't it.

You will smile again, I promise. It doesn't feel like it but you will.

Lots of love coming to you from another wife missing her husband something fierce.

-Andrea

Stace said...

Awww... I'm so sorry! : ( I don't know what advice to give you other than to keep yourself really busy and just remember that before you know it he will be back!

Sarah Ann said...

I would be doing the exact same thing. =( Not that I have any personal experience of my own, but I am told it will get better. Not great or anything, but bearable. And just think, soon you'll be back in the states with your family and that will make everything easier. Now go watch a movie to get your mind off things and eat some amazing food. That always temporarily cheers me up!

SassyEngineer said...

I can't tell you it gets better because I have never been there. However, I know you are a strong woman, and I will keep you in my prayers!

Via said...

Thinking of you guys today. We are all here for you.

Sara said...

Things will get better. And then sometimes things get worse because time seems to slow. But everything you experience, all the ways you feel about this are completely normal.

Good luck sean!

The Pink Chick said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers!!

Random Musings Of My Life said...

Stay strong...

Crazy Shenanigans said...

Hang in there. It'll get better! Plus you're going home soon!

Caitlin said...

I'm so sorry he's gone :( I promise, it does get better...just gotta take a day at a time, as everyone else has said. And as much as I hated hearing it when Rob left, deployments go by SO quickly. It was seriously the quickest 13 months of my life. Do you know how long he's gone? Stay strong!

Kristie said...

Yes.. it will get better, unfortunately, that is not comforting to hear right now!

Blessings,
Kristie

Kpod said...

Ugh deploymnt day is heartbreaking. You are a better woman than I though for not crying in front of him. Stay strong and things will only get better from here.

Paula said...

Take it day by day, and you'll get into a routine, and while it won't be fun, it won't be so heartbreaking after awhile.

tcdprayers said...

I am not gonna say it gets easier but I am going to say that friends, family, and a routine help. I also have to say that you will start to live for the countdown, phone calls, and emails....even the surprise packages. Also write him both letters (like snail mail) as well as emails. It might take a while for him to get both particularly the snail mail but trust me...HE WILL LOVE IT!!!!

If you want more tips....ideas.....or just a shoulder to cry/complain to contact me.

Windy City Kelley's said...

I'm sorry, but look at it this way now. Every day he's gone is one day closer to him being home now! you're bloggie friends are here for you.

Jane said...

I'll be thinking about you and praying for you!

Are you coming home at all while he's gone?

If you are ... maybe we could do a little bloggy meet up!