Sunday, June 26, 2011

Question of the Day

A slightly unusual Question of the Day, but one that was inspired by a recent debate on a forum I'm part of.

Do you find it disrespectful if an adult couple married or not, is intimate while staying over at a family members' home?  For example, you and your signifcant other go to your parents' home for Christmas. Are you intimate? Or do you think that's disrespecting your family?


Just for the record I mean you're being discreet, no yelling/headboard hitting the walls.

I'm curious to hear your answers.

13 comments:

T, C, and E said...

If we had not been intimate while staying at my FIL's house last Christmas ... our beautiful baby girl would not be here! I do not think it is disrespectful for a married couple to be intimate while staying at a family member's house. If there is NO evidence, NO noise, etc., how is that a problem?!?

Melanie said...

I agree. If no noise is heard and you're discreet, then I don't see a problem!

Oh and also avoiding a mess on the sheets! I'd feel bad if my mom had to wash nasty sheets. Lol

Melissa said...

I would say that if then don't know...like others said Bo noise mess ect. Than you should be fine , it would be awkward if they did hear you, believe me when I was dating my now husband I was over one night and heard the floor or bed squeaking and yeah needless to say they weren't discreet haha. Good question!

Abbie said...

Ditto the other girls...as long as your quiet then it's okay:)

But if I'm being honest, I don't know how comfortable I'd feel doing that in a family members house!

Amber said...

I really don't feel comfy doing the deed in someone else's house.
I know it would bother me if the tables were turned.
Maybe i'm old fashioned?!

Cat said...

If you're married, I don't see the issue. (Our Catholic families had us stay in separate rooms before marriage anyway.) It's part of being married. I even heard my mom tell my dad to go up to bed early to give us some space (his "man-cave" is down by the guest bedroom, and he usually falls asleep watching sports and doesn't get up to bed until like 1am). Love my mom.

Angela Noelle said...

I completely agree with the first few comments. My husband and I have never hesitated to have "one-on-one" time with each other while visiting family, but we're always very quite and keep it clean!

Jenn said...

I think as long as you are discreet about it then I don't see the problem. I am an extremely private person and definitely don't want others to know when I am being intimate with someone. I have run into an issue with a "friend" that finds it necessary to leave a get together and have sex with her husband...not caring that we can all hear them. That I find rude and disrespectful (even if it is their own home).

d.a.r. said...

While I haven't come out on FB/the blog yet---we totally conceived our baby while we have been living with my in-laws, haha! My FIL actually thinks it is wildly hilarious (and I am so glad that I am not easily embarrassed and our families are just this close) and has brought it up on more than one occasion. As long as you are discrete (i.e. do your own dang laundry, don't be loud, shut the door, don't disappear for hours in the middle of the day with the door shut, etc.) I think it is fine.

TASS said...

I am 100% with Amber. I have a hard time doing the "love making" if people are staying in my own home, let alone a family members home. I guess it's one of those things where I feel like we need to be alone. I wouldn't be able to let go. I have been married for 7 years and am sure it's happened to us!

AbbeyG said...

If it's a family members house, I look at it as no harm-no foul. As long as there is no evidence, why not??

MooAtU2 said...

I give my sister and BIL a hard time because their daughter was conceived around Christmas- when they were in FL visiting his parents.

My husband and I have done it before too, but we're considerate and we know his mom can't hear (she's on 2nd floor, we're in the basement). In our case, we seem to always visit relatives during the holidays, and holidays make us all lovey-dovey.

Elizabeth said...

I don't see the big deal as long as a couple is discreet. The way I see it, his family is gonna make fun of us anyway, so might as well make it true. ;)