tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post7517033401374852456..comments2024-02-25T20:29:26.335-06:00Comments on New Girl On Post: Am I Being High Maintenance?New Girl on Posthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14391449472363787248noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-89704853489612856572008-12-24T12:49:00.000-06:002008-12-24T12:49:00.000-06:00I would be upset as well. But, I tend to think tha...I would be upset as well. But, I tend to think that being a bitch about it will only blow it up and make it worse. I wouldn't call and wait for him to call me. Then, state my case about how sad/worried I was. It seems to me that being "hurt or worried" seems to get through more than being mad.d.a.r.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06915354259913245831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-18255349882545421262008-12-24T07:14:00.000-06:002008-12-24T07:14:00.000-06:00I would be upset too! I agree with Mojito Maven!I would be upset too! I agree with Mojito Maven!Mrs. Cuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16710157643856612808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-74995260772302386702008-12-23T23:32:00.000-06:002008-12-23T23:32:00.000-06:00I have to admit, I kind of rolled my eyes at this....I have to admit, I kind of rolled my eyes at this. But, I can relate a little because that's how I was back when Oliver and I were dating. After six years of marriage, however, we've learned to trust one another, and I don't really expect him to call me the instant he walks in the door from somewhere if he's gone. I'd maybe think a little about why you are angry; are you a little jealous he was Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13472342143854293192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-5129917925208730832008-12-23T22:53:00.000-06:002008-12-23T22:53:00.000-06:00I wish I could be more like Mrs. Newlywed is, but ...I wish I could be more like Mrs. Newlywed is, but I would be upset as well. I think we expect men to think like us (since if I went out, I'd be texting/calling as much as possible so he knew where I was) but really, they don't. They do what they're doing and don't really think about much else. :) I wouldn't worry about being high maintenance though, it's perfectly normal. It's tempting to do Caitlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14559663828560851300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-53850879956560379152008-12-23T22:34:00.000-06:002008-12-23T22:34:00.000-06:00I think you probably already know my answer on thi...I think you probably already know my answer on this one. I'd say you have a right to be upset, I think it's simply respectful to call and check in with eachother, especially when one of you are out of town.<BR/>I know that my first reaction would be to do something immature and get really angry (remember how I reacted when Matt took a nap through our plans for my birthday this past year? My Kebi Cedawnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13058628813414700555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-85883414362453067622008-12-23T21:06:00.000-06:002008-12-23T21:06:00.000-06:00I know exactly how you feel. Boys just don't get i...I know exactly how you feel. Boys just don't get it sometimes. They think that since they're ok, you should just know that too. And its soooo much worse when they're away because your so helpless. When my hubby and I were living apart there were weekends when I wouldn't hear from him and I thought he was dead or something, my mind wanders when I worry. I don't think a call/text is too much to Mrs. Not-so-Domesticatedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06844240935214670362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-48777826500437077082008-12-23T20:33:00.000-06:002008-12-23T20:33:00.000-06:00I would be mad. It is just a respect thing for me....I would be mad. It is just a respect thing for me. I would want my husband to just check in to let me know he was alive. You are not high maintance at all!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02751550286895868615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-65472350804746946112008-12-23T19:54:00.000-06:002008-12-23T19:54:00.000-06:00Oh my gosh. I am the queen of this. I could NOT ST...Oh my gosh. I am the queen of this. I could NOT STAND IT when my ex-boyfriend would neglect to call or text when he was out or when he got home. It wasn't the fact that he was out, it was the fact that he couldn't take the 2 seconds to let me know he was ok. This drove him crazy though..yada yada but, since this is your HUSBAND, you would think he would check in and let you know what he is doing Kiss My Tiarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17375254655449942234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-51409839390935519362008-12-23T19:31:00.000-06:002008-12-23T19:31:00.000-06:00my feelings would be so completely hurt! mu husba...my feelings would be so completely hurt! mu husband has done that before and it was horrible...I am so sorry, I am sure you are worried. Tell him he needs to be more considerate... he would probably be freaking out if you did the same.morewinepleasehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04778757727496058772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-36316329472883471982008-12-23T18:50:00.000-06:002008-12-23T18:50:00.000-06:00I would've been a little upset too only because yo...I would've been a little upset too only because you are apart from him and during this time of year when the weather can be so unpredictable, it's nice to know whether or not he made it home safe. When you talk to him next, calmly let him know it made you upset...as tempted as you are to ignore him, that's probably the worst thing you could do because it will just add fuel to the fire. You're notAbbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17856972265809615275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-35396825835360552612008-12-23T17:51:00.000-06:002008-12-23T17:51:00.000-06:00I am the same way, but I think you have every sing...I am the same way, but I think you have every single right to be mad. More than anything you must be worried sick. Even if he is without cell phone he could find a way to contact you to let you know he is ok! All this time without a call/text is, in my opinion, unacceptable. In our relationship at least. I do not think you're being high maintenance at all. <BR/>As tempting as it is though, I Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17385546024152781958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-22323313880831190732008-12-23T16:46:00.000-06:002008-12-23T16:46:00.000-06:00I have a hard time with this one because it's exac...I have a hard time with this one because it's exactly how I am. When we're together, we're perfectly fine. But being apart makes it so easy to get angry over stupid things. I don't know what it is, maybe some kind of defect we share haha.<BR/><BR/>I wouldn't say you are being paranoid. I don't think it's because you have a right to know, but he should respect you enough to actually do what Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14527818007332848959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-60976541194782516862008-12-23T15:09:00.000-06:002008-12-23T15:09:00.000-06:00I woulda been pissed! I'd also would have been tem...I woulda been pissed! I'd also would have been tempted to give him the cold shoulder!Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05209779685063875748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-83614887659654583962008-12-23T15:07:00.000-06:002008-12-23T15:07:00.000-06:00I have a hard time relating to this kind of respon...I have a hard time relating to this kind of response only because I've always been a "need my space" kind of person (my husband is the same so we make a good fit, I guess:-)Like Mrs. Newlywed, I would assume if he was going to visit his family chances are he's going to go out with them or see his friends too and that kind of activity can keep a person busy, so I think it's understandable if they Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18067025119431637535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-42608719291275123672008-12-23T14:14:00.000-06:002008-12-23T14:14:00.000-06:00I wouldn't be mad, especially considering his batt...I wouldn't be mad, especially considering his battery was low. I trust David completely, and if I wanted to know what he was doing I would have gone with him on the trip. I wouldn't sweat the small stuff.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08574214969423009865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-69420752857002886382008-12-23T13:01:00.000-06:002008-12-23T13:01:00.000-06:00I think I would be more hurt than angry...Mr. Moji...I think I would be more hurt than angry...Mr. Mojito only had to make this mistake once before he learned his lesson. I was so worried. I agree with Mrs. Newlywed, I am not his mom but I am his wife and i expect to be treated with respect and consideration. I say tell him how you feel and that you are very urt that he did not even think to call you and tell him how would he feel if the situation Mojito Mavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08269574305314826326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-52375048837020686372008-12-23T12:14:00.000-06:002008-12-23T12:14:00.000-06:00I don't know that this is anything different - I g...I don't know that this is anything different - I get upset when he doesn't call, but I have now learned that he just doesn't think too. I always think that I am going to ignore him, but the truth is that I am so happy to have him home that I can't ever ignore him. I would say let him know in a gentle way that it was uncool, but then I say move on. It makes life so much easier!Sassy Engineerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18403612743982870567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-74884053353682766602008-12-23T12:00:00.000-06:002008-12-23T12:00:00.000-06:00Yeah, I wish I could lay it on you. But that is us...Yeah, I wish I could lay it on you. But that is usually how I act. I don't know what it is, but the same thing seems to happen to me when Doug goes away. It is totally juvenille maybe, but it happens. The other thing is that if he never called or anything to let me know he was safe at home at the end of the night I would be pretty miffed too.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14512593790820167149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-185591559447419752008-12-23T11:15:00.000-06:002008-12-23T11:15:00.000-06:00I think you're justified in being upset, especiall...I think you're justified in being upset, especially if regular talking and texting are the norm. But I agree with the other ladies and wouldn't give him the silent treatment. <BR/><BR/>Hopefully when he's back by you, things smooth out.Carissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17112144698402306365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-45410638602602732962008-12-23T11:08:00.000-06:002008-12-23T11:08:00.000-06:00Definitely be mad. But take it from someone that's...Definitely be mad. But take it from someone that's been married almost 12 years. They never change that not calling trait. Brian still will go out and not call at all but I purposely place phone calls to let him know where I'm at. It's just not in their genetics. :) I still get mad at him today for it. However ~ don't let it ruin your Christmas. {HUGS}Gwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830655404317102950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-52954169787543612712008-12-23T11:01:00.000-06:002008-12-23T11:01:00.000-06:00I think being angry when they are away (no matter ...I think being angry when they are away (no matter if it is one day or one year) is a coping mechanism. Being mad at them makes it easier to not have them around. <BR/><BR/>My opinion- A text would have been nice. State your case with him and move on. No sense making it a huge deal now, it already happened. Grand scheme of things? Not a huge deal, but he should know where you stand for next time.Casey (@ Chaos and Cardboard)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15979995574956608644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-14205959914174422422008-12-23T10:56:00.000-06:002008-12-23T10:56:00.000-06:00I would be mad as hell too, and I also would be te...I would be mad as hell too, and I also would be tempted to return the favor, so to speak, but I wouldn't recommend doing so. Being a guy, he might not even notice the lack of communication, caught up in the goings on of family, or if he does, it might make the situation worse. But you are certainly not being high maintenance.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11679341093302880387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-71494037252066468012008-12-23T10:46:00.000-06:002008-12-23T10:46:00.000-06:00I would totally be mad! My husband and I talk and...I would totally be mad! My husband and I talk and text a good bit when we are apart, so I totally understand where you are coming from. I don't think you are being high maintenance.The Pink Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409582688379911790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-49264939034227858452008-12-23T10:36:00.001-06:002008-12-23T10:36:00.001-06:00I would be mad too. Can you get his cousin's numbe...I would be mad too. Can you get his cousin's number so you can yell at your hubby since his phone died? I wouldn't be able to ignore him for the same amount of time because I would have to let him know how worried and angry I was. Good luck girl!Tashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06488012058593604962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2677241611426645731.post-6789959947899812142008-12-23T10:36:00.000-06:002008-12-23T10:36:00.000-06:00Ohhh I am the opposite of Lindsey.Here's my though...Ohhh I am the opposite of Lindsey.<BR/><BR/>Here's my thought. Mr. Newlywed is a grown man. I am not his mother. He does not have to answer to me. If he wants to go out, then he goes out. He is not obligated to contact me and let me know he is okay.<BR/><BR/>I assume the calls are only going to come when something bad happens. It is my general way of doing things.<BR/><BR/>That's just me Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13619255716588830475noreply@blogger.com